I once read a book entitled: If You Want Closure, You Need To Start With Your Legs. I thought the title of the book was quite tacky, but it wasn't tacky enought to stop me from opening the pages of the book up and reading everything that it had to offer. I didn't get through much of the book, but I did make it to the part that discussed the title in particular, and it was very interestign to me. One of the main things that intrigued me was the fact that it was a man writing the book. A black man, who had been a self-proclaimed 'pimp', who had dogged women and watch women get dogged by numerous amounts of men. He had watched women perpetuate a vicious cycle of letting themselves be abused and used by men, primarily for sexual favors.
It dawned on me that the idea of women getting closure from closing their legs first began to sound like something that most women should hear. Here was a man who had used women for sex, and he realized that the most important and precious thing a woman should offer a man on the first night should be her spirit, her personality, her character. Not her panties.
Its very important to note that all of the things that women do to scare men away dont always seem that obvious. Men and women are delicate and intricate human beings who have many issues accompanying them. Each one should be dealt with independently.
2/10/09 Closure doesn't mean you aren't reaizing the sexual nature of your being as a human, it only means that you're consciousness won't allow for you to be victimized or objectified any longer.
The cycle has to end, and in order for that to happen,women have to gain access to their own consciousness and tap into their intuition. A bit of self-actualization has to take place as well.
That self-actualization means, in order to be who you are, you have to figure out who you are, what you like, what makes you truly happy, how you express yourself, your limitations and the non-negotiables. When you set limits and boundaries with men, and clear expectations, then it's a lot harder for them to play you for the fool.
6/11/09 Closure is a cool thing. I have realized that when a woman closes her legs and begins to relate to men from her soul, genuinely caring and loving them in a manner that is good, she has opened a new point of entry into her heart, and her beautiful soul, where the orgasm is everlasting and more powerful than anything that can be achieved through physical sexual contact.
